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They Can Check All Your Boxes—and Still Be Wrong for You.
Choosing the right person—and building a healthy relationship—takes more than chemistry, compatibility, or checking all the boxes. It takes wisdom, intention, and a willingness to let God shape the way you love.
And it starts with you. Before searching for the right person, healthy love begins with getting your own heart and life healthy, deepening your relationship with Christ, walking confidently in your God-given purpose, and learning to genuinely enjoy your life as a single person. From there, you’re better prepared to attract, recognize, and choose the right person—and build something healthy together.
That’s why these aren’t ordinary dating tools. Each one was intentionally created to bring meaningful, practical change—bringing together biblical principles, relationship science, and practical guidance to help you cultivate healthy love with the right person.
Every tool has a purpose. Every tool has a place.
Clinician-recommended, each tool is a valuable step toward becoming your best self as you choose to be intentional about pairing healthy.
The tools are designed to work together in sequence, with each step (or “checkpoint”) building on the growth from the one before it. Think of it like a trail—you’ll use different tools along the way, each designed to help you move forward. The love map shows you visually how it all fits together, so take a look and see where you’re at.
You can explore and purchase each tool individually, or if you are a single starting over and not wanting to go it alone, our signature program, MateQuest™, brings the entire journey together—with the tools, guidance, and private community designed to help you make the most of the process. It may be just what you’ve been looking for!
tool: the book
map pin: #1
love stage: single
dATE READY by Tami Butler
Prepare for healthy.
Before you start looking for the right person, it’s important to become ready for the right relationship.
Date Ready is your Kingdom singles playbook for changing the way you approach dating, choosing a mate, and creating healthy love.
As a clinician, I’ll teach you what healthy looks like—and help you examine the patterns, habits, beliefs, and choices that may be getting in the way of finding it.
You’ll create a plan for dating differently, learn to recognize healthy, become more intentional about choosing a partner, and be encouraged to honor God throughout the process.
Because finding a mate isn’t just about who you find. It’s also about who you are becoming.
explore the book
tool: the journal
map pin: #1
love stage: single, dating
DATE READY COMPANION JOURNAL
Reflect. Record. Grow.
Transformation doesn’t happen just because you read a good book. You have to stop, think, pray, and put what you’re learning into practice.
The Date Ready Companion Journal gives you a personal place to do just that.
Use it alongside Date Ready to record your thoughts, prayers, insights, goals, discoveries, and progress as you prepare for healthy love.
There are no rules about what belongs on the page. It’s your journey, your story, and your space to grow.
explore the journal
tool: the game
map pin: #2
love stage: dating, engaged
CHOICES THE GAME
Recognize who’s healthy.
Chemistry is fun. Butterflies are exciting. But chemistry alone doesn’t tell you whether someone is actually a good match for your life.
That’s where CHOICES the game™ comes in.
Created by a clinician and relationship expert, this fun compatibility card game uses 100 real-life multiple-choice questions across the 10 key areas that impact a realtionship most, helping you move beyond surface conversation and discover how you and a potential partner actually fit in day-to-day life.
And yes—you score it!
The built-in compatibility scoring model helps you see your strongest areas of alignment and identify potential areas of conflict before you become deeply emotionally invested. Like your own personal matchmaker in a box!
Play it over dinner. Play it on a date. Play one category at a time. Laugh, talk, discover—and pay attention to the answers (and the stories behind them).
Because choosing wisely is a whole lot easier when you know what you’re choosing.
explore the game
tool: the assessment
map pin: #3
love stage: dating, engaged, and married couples
evaluate the current health of your relationship
Confirm it’s healthy.
Once you’ve been dating for a while and are considering a future together, it’s time to look beneath the surface.
The assessment is a research-backed clinical relationship tool developed by psychologists and used by counselors, therapists, and other relationship professionals worldwide.
It helps you and your partner explore the deeper dynamics of your relationship—including communication, conflict, finances, expectations, spirituality, love, well-being, and more.
Your results provide an objective look at the relationship you’re creating together, helping you identify strengths, potential challenges, and opportunities for growth.
And perhaps most importantly, you don’t have to figure out what it all means by yourselves. Your clinician can help you unpack the results, ask the hard questions, celebrate what’s working, and identify where attention may be needed.
Whether you're happily dating, preparing for marriage, already married, or simply wondering, “Are we really as healthy as we think we are?”—knowing what's happening beneath the surface can make all the difference.
explore the assessment
tool: matequest
map pin: #1, #2, #3
love stage: single, dating, engaged
Ready to Experience the Tools as a Tribe?
MateQuest™ turns THE TOOLS into a real-life adventure! It’s our signature program for those who want to go deeper—a private, guided experience with Christ at the center, your clinician as trail guide, and others who love Jesus alongside you. It’s virtual and available to singles across the United States.